In a world where we are constantly focused on ourselves, our thoughts, feelings and personal growth, we sometimes forget one of the simplest yet most powerful questions: “How are you doing?” This question seems so simple, so obvious, yet within its simplicity lies a profound truth.

We live in an age where self-development and personal growth take center stage. Spiritual journeys, therapies, meditation and mindfulness are all aimed at our inner well-being. This is valuable in itself, but there is a trap: we can become so absorbed in our own process that we forget about the people around us.

The ego can sometimes disguise itself as ‘self-growth.’ What seems like a quest for wisdom and healing can sometimes become a journey of isolation. We turn inward and forget that relationships are a two-way path. That a conversation is not a monologue. That listening is just as important as speaking.

But what does it mean to truly ask, “How are you doing?” It is an invitation to connect. A moment when you lower the walls of your own thoughts and allow someone else in. It is an act of love. Because when we truly listen, we give something of ourselves.

Imagine living in a house with someone you care about. Days go by, and even though you share the same space, there is a lingering silence. The other person speaks about their process, their feelings, but rarely asks, “How are you doing?” This can be painful. It can make you feel as if your experiences do not matter.

Spiritual growth should not be a wall that shuts us off from others, but a bridge that connects us to them. It is not just a journey inward but also a journey outward. Toward others. Toward listening, understanding and sharing.

Ask yourself: When was the last time you genuinely asked someone how they were doing? When did you listen without judgment, without waiting for your turn to speak? And when did someone do that for you?

Let’s start today with this simple but profound question. Let’s learn to listen, truly listen. Because in that listening lies healing, not just for others but also for ourselves.